teens

February 23, 2019 - Celebrity Event

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I was fortunate to participate in an amazing event on the Saturday before the Academy Awards on 23 February 2019. I was at the gifting suite at the W Hotel in Hollywood, California, sharing the experience with a wonderful friend and artist, Dawn Reiffenstein from Divine Spark Art. I met amazing people, not only actors and actresses but media moguls, social influencers as well as behind the scenes specialists.

It was a crazy, busy and fantastic experience. The planning and organization just to get my books there was minimal compared to what the Celebrity Connected team had to do in conjunction with the W Hotel staff. I have only praise for everyone involved.

I loved walking along the stars on the sidewalks, and experiencing the atmosphere in one of the oldest areas in the city of angels. I saw Kinky Boots at the Pantages Theatre, and the glamour of the old theatre was still vibrant as ever, if a bit frayed around the edges. The idea that I was sitting where so many famous stars sat and waited on their names being called as winner of an Oscar, made me feel in awe. The wide aisles brought to my mind ball gowns and tuxedos, glamorous hairdo’s and the smell of perfumes and cigars.

We went for breakfast at the 101 Coffee Shop, where many movies have been filmed. A historical landmark in Hollywood, the great food and atmosphere both reminded one of the fact that we were sitting at tables where great ones have been before.

Of course no visit to the city of movies would be complete without visiting Universal Studios. A place where I became childlike with wonder and awe. Dawn and I had a lot of fun, and it felt as if we must’ve walked 10 kilometres. I learned how noises are created, went on crazy rides, and discovered the little girl inside of me didn’t mind being giddy with fun.

The day of the flight back to Canada, a place I’ve long wanted to see became a reality when we went to Santa Monica Pier. I love the ocean, the ever changing waves breaking then retreating, in a never ending song. There was a trapeze school entertaining us, and the atmosphere was one of holiday. It was great, and a truly beautiful sight.

Something very noticeable were the many tents and shelters by homeless souls who didn’t have a fixed home. Young people, older generations. Their eyes were empty, they had given up hope on life and themselves. Drugs have ravished their bodies, and inconsistent diets have completed the task. My heart ached for them, for the choices made, circumstances forced them to succumb to a life without light.

It made me realize that my message is important. Many many people feel the way I do, that we have a task ahead of us making sure we raise awareness about the challenges young people go through. Social media makes for an instant experience with smiles and happy moments, but don’t always go behind the scenes to explore what really happens.

I have made contacts I will have future dealings with, and I know I will always remember the Celebrity Connected event. It would not have happened without Alisia Nhoeuk from Holistic Hustle. She approached me after she had heard me talk, and introduced me to the CEO, Gene Sheynis. The rest is history, as they say.

Hugs
Irma

February 20, 2019

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I’m listening to a blistering winter storm outside, and realized that it was time for me to say what was on my mind. This is the first blog on my website, and it is interesting how our minds wander…

Even though the words are only being written now, the thoughts have been in my mind for a very long time. As I pondered, back spaced again and again, I came to the realization that we as human beings crave perfection.

I think that’s the same for our children, whether nieces and nephews, children we gave birth to or adopted, or someone’s children we might know. We expect them to be perfect, to achieve our impossibly high standards we have set for them. Then, if they fail, we feel as if we have failed as well.

Social media pushes the bar even higher. Now we not only compete with our perceived notion of perfection against friends and family, we also have to do well with likes and hearts on the Facebook pages and profiles, the Instagram followers and don’t forget the LinkeIn business groups. That’s to name a few.

Did we become so affixed to the idea of being loved by the world that we have forgotten why we are here in the first place? We are in this lifetime for a reason. Some of us are following our paths and learning the lessons, while others struggle. Our children are our teachers, probably more so than what we are theirs.

If they are our teachers, then why is the number of teen suicides so high? Why is the demographic with the highest percentage of mental illness in the ages 14-24 years old, per statistics?

Let’s face it: we have become the perfect parents, the perfect teachers and grandparents and aunts and uncles etc. In fact we are so perfect, that we are missing the signs. The signs of a young adult crying for help.

How could I say this? Because I was that person. I missed the signs, and almost lost my daughter in the process. She was crying for help through her actions, and little snippets of words. I was too busy to be the perfect wife, mother and employee to take notice of my angry, crying for help, teen.

None of us are perfect. Let’s start changing the way we look at our teens. A grunt is a full sentence. A hug is worth a million dollars. When they talk to us, put that tablet or remote away and listen to them, because we are raising tomorrow’s leaders.

Hugs,
Irma