As I share my journey at speaking events to teach and motivate others, more and more memories come up. It makes me realize that we are on this planet for a reason. What we experience, is but a drop of paint on the palette of our lives’ master pieces being created through our experiences. Without the lessons we will not be able to learn and grow as human beings.
Did you know that at one time or another, almost every single person on earth has gone through an experience that affected the way they make choices today, and how they look at life? Did you know that almost half of every population has had feelings and thoughts of exiting this lifetime of theirs?
How we address any situation, or person, will have a ripple effect. How we speak to someone when they are having an emotional outburst, affects not only ourselves, but the recipients as well. Dwelling on situations that happened, and not making the most of those experiences, only in turn could make us stay in a dark and negative place, asking “WHY ME?” to justify not showing up for ourselves, and our families and colleagues.
I have been there. I have asked the “why me” question. When we create our realities through our thoughts, the question has to be asked: Do I want to be seen as a victim, the poor me going through so much? Or do I want to be seen as victorious, taking what gets given and becoming stronger because of it? Do I blame others for my choices? Or do I take ownership of making the wrong decisions?
Teenagers make decisions without thinking things through. They tend to have a skewed perception of how situations will pan out. It’s up to the adults in their lives to see and recognize the signs that could affect their young adult’s futures. The frontal lobe has not been fully developed until the age of around 25. An article written by Jay N. Giedd, M.D. states that the teenage brain is “primed to learn, primed to take risks “. So teenagers know exactly what they are doing, they just don’t realize the full extent of those choices and what the consequences would be. Once we understand that, we can start helping our youth.
Start today, and think before you speak or act. Start today, and love yourself, so that you could love others the same way. Start today, and become mindful. Start today, and become the example. Become the leader. Before you hurt someone on purpose, make sure you know it could backfire, and in the end you will be the one hurt.